If the time comes to move forward with the divorce process, you'll first want to discuss your feelings with your spouse. This is easier said than done, but it's something you need to do if you're serious about putting your marriage in the past once and for all.
As you can imagine, asking for a divorce can be every bit as challenging as the marital problems you're currently dealing with. Fortunately, with the right approach, you can move through this conversation in a timely manner:
- Choose the right time to have this discussion. You'll need plenty of time to talk through things, so don't ask for a divorce when you only have a few minutes on your hands. Also, you don't want an audience when asking for a divorce.
- Know what you want to say. It's never easy to find your words when talking about divorce, so you want to have a clear idea of what you are going to say as the conversation moves forward.
- Remain calm and on topic. This is not a good time to show your anger and bring back problems from the past. Instead, you want to discuss the here and now, as well as where you want to go in the future.
- Keep your safety in mind. If you can't trust your spouse to act reasonably, you may need to ask for a divorce over the phone or request that you meet in a public place.
- Remain serious. You don't want to give your spouse any impression that you aren't serious about ending the marriage.